Afotusɛm ntiantia
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Obi bisa wo asɛmmisa tee. Dan no mu yɛ komm. Na nokware no ne sɛ wunni adwene biara.
Ebia ɛyɛ nɔma a anka ɛsɛ sɛ woakora so wʼadwene mu. Ebia ɛyɛ gyinaeɛ a egyina nneɛma a obiara ntumi nhunu nkɔ kan so. Ebia ɛyɛ asɛmmisa a ɛyɛ den a ɛfiri obi a osuro ne adwuma ho, na ɔrehwɛ wo sɛ ma ehu no nkɔ. Wo yam tu. Nne ketewa bi ka kyerɛ wo sɛ ka biribi, biribiara, a ɛte sɛ tumi.
Saa bere no, mpaeɛ a ɛda asɛmmisa ne wo mmuaeɛ ntam, ɛno na akannifoɔ pii bubu wɔ komm mu. Ɛnyɛ sɛ wonnim. Obiara nnim biribiara. Wɔbubu efisɛ wogye di sɛ ɛsɛ sɛ wonim.
Baabi a hu no ankasa fi
Ehu no nfa nokwasɛm a ayera no ankasa ho. Ɛfa deɛ wususu sɛ nokwasɛm a ayera no ka fa wo ho ho.
Yɛn mu dodoɔ no ara nyaa asɛm bi ahyɛm bere a yɛyɛ mmofra sɛ nimdeɛ kyerɛ sɛ wowɔ mmuaeɛ, na sɛ wonnim a, ɛkyerɛ sɛ wʼadi adi, woaka akyi, na wɔrebɛhunu wo. Enti bere a asɛmmisa no ba na mmuaeɛ no nni hɔ no, honam no yɛ ne ho sɛnea ɛyɛ ne ho ma asiane biara. Wʼakoma bɔ ntɛm. Wʼadwene yɛ teateaa. Wote piapia bi sɛ fa biribi hyɛ komm no mu ansa na obi ahunu tokuro no.
Sɛɛ ne afidie no. Saa piapia korɔ no ara a ɛkyerɛ sɛ kata so no na ɛma awieeɛ a ɛyɛ bɔne paa ba. Wokyerɛ nɔma bi a ɛyɛ atorosɛm na ɛnteɛ. Wohyɛ bɔ aboro so sɛnea wobɛyɛ sɛ obi a wugyina gyinaeɛ. Wosi gyinaeɛ ntɛm sɛnea wobɛguan atenka a ɛyɛ ya no, na wode ɔsram a edi hɔ no siesie. Hu no nyɛ den nko ara. Ɛkyere wʼatemmuo wɔ bere a wuhia no kɛse.
Sɛ wunim sɛ mmuaeɛ no yɛ deɛ ɛba ne ho a, ɛboa. Akoma a ɛbɔ ntɛm no nyɛ atemmuo a ɛfa wʼahoɔden ho. Ɛyɛ ahyɛsodeɛ dada a ɛresusu nhyiamu sɛ ɛyɛ gyata.
Adwene a ɛkyerɛ sɛ ka no kɛkɛ
Ɛte sɛ deɛ ɛyɛ akyirikyiri, nanso sɛ wugye to mu sɛ wonnim no taa yɛ adeyɛ a ɛbɔ wo dintoɔ ho ban sene sɛ ɛbɛsɛe no.
Nhwehwɛmufoɔ a wɔhwehwɛ nimdeɛ mu ahobrɛaseɛ (intellectual humility), tumi a ɛyɛ pɛtɛɛ a wode hunu deɛ wonim no anoɔ, kɔ so hu ade korɔ no ara: nnipa a wɔtumi ka sɛ "ebia mayɛ mfomso" anaa "minni saa" no, wɔde wɔn ho to wɔn so kɛse, na ɛnyɛ kakra. Wɔda adi sɛ wɔwɔ ɔdɔ na wɔabue wɔn ho. Wɔ akyinnyegyeɛ mu no, sɛnea wokura wɔn adwene mu brɛoo no ankasa brɛ ɔham no ase na ɛma onipa a ɔka ho no pɛ sɛ ɔtie. Atorofoɔ no, bere kɔ so a, ɔda adi sɛ obi a wuntumi mfa wo ho nto no so. Onipa a ɔyɛ nokware fa deɛ ne nimdeɛ ano duru ho no da adi sɛ obi a ɔbɛka nokware akyerɛ wo bere a ɛho hia.
Yei ho hia kɛse bere a nneɛma nyɛ pefee ankasa. Harvard ɔbenfoɔ Amy Edmondson, a ɔde n'asetena nyinaa ahwehwɛ deɛ ɛma akuo yɛ adwuma yiye, kyerɛ sɛ tebea no yɛ den na entumi nyɛ pefee a, akuo no hia nnipa a wɔkasa, wɔde nsusuiɛ a ɛnsɔ ho da hɔ, na wɔbɔ deɛ wɔnte aseɛ din. Yeinom biara nsi sɛ onipa a ɔda kan no yɛ sɛ ɔnim biribiara. Ɔkannifoɔ a ɔgye to mu sɛ ne nimdeɛ wɔ ano duru no ma obiara kwan sɛ ɔbɛyɛ saa. Sɛɛ na mmuaeɛ ankasa no taa ba, ɛnam akuo no so, badwa mu, na ɛnyɛ sɛ ɛkura ti baako a ɛyɛ pɛse mu.
Deɛ wobɛyɛ saa bere no
Bere a asɛmmisa no ba na mmuaeɛ no nni hɔ no, wonhia nsɛm a wɔakyerɛw. Wuhia simma kakra ne ɔkwan a wobɛyɛ nokware a worennkyerɛ sɛ wʼadwene asɛe. Nhyehyɛeɛ a ɛgyina:
- Tɔ ahome ma wo ho. Ansa na asɛm baako mpo, ɛfa wo home brɛoo. Ahome ankasa baako siesie wo honam ma ɛdɔɔso sɛ wʼadwene kɔ so yɛ adwuma. Hɔ na adeɛ pii hwehwɛ mmuaeɛ a ɛba prɛko pɛ, sɛ ɛte sɛ deɛ ɛhia mpo.
- Ka nokwasɛm no pɛɛ. "Minni no wɔ mʼanim." "Minni awerɛhyɛmu, na mempɛ sɛ mesusu." "Ɛyɛ asɛmmisa pa na ɛsɛ sɛ medwennwene ho." Pɛtɛɛ ne nutsuwa boro nyansabɔ a wo ho popo so bere biara.
- Kyerɛ sɛ wofa no aniberesoɔ. Deɛ nnipa suro fa "minnim" ho ne sɛ ɛkyerɛ sɛ wʼani nnsɔ anaa worenkɔ so anhwɛ. Enti to mpaeɛ no mu. "Ma menhwehwɛ na mensan mmra wo nkyɛn Yawda." Afei wo nimdeɛ-a-wunni no ba ne nhyehyɛeɛ, a ɛno ankasa yɛ awerɛkyekye bi.
- Fa ma dan no mu nnipa bere a wobɛtumi. "Minni mmuaeɛ a ɛyɛ pefee. Mo a moaka no, deɛ morehunu ne sɛn?" Worenguan. Woretrɛw nnipa a wɔredwennwen ɔhaw no ho no nkwan mu, na ɔkannifoɔ pa yɛ saa ne boapɛm.
- Afei kɔ so yɛ ampa. Yei ne ɔfa a ɛdane bere a wodi nokware baako no to a ɛkɔ so daa. Onipa a ɔka sɛ "Mɛhwehwɛ" na ɔyɛ no bɛyɛ obi a n'asɛm wɔ mu.
Hwɛ deɛ ɛnni saa list no mu. Tumi a ɛyɛ atorosɛm biara nni mu. Kasa a ɛyɛ tenten kɛkɛ biara nni mu. Bɔhyɛ a ɛfa awieeɛ a wuntumi nhwɛ so biara nni mu.
Ahoɔden mfonini soronko
Akannifoɔ a nnipa di wɔn akyi mfeɛ pii no ntaa nyɛ wɔn a na wɔwɔ mmuaeɛ a ɛyɛ krado bere biara. Ɛyɛ wɔn a na wɔyɛ nokware fa deɛ wonim ho, wɔgyina pintinn fa deɛ wonnim ho, na wɔde wɔn ho to wɔn so wɔ nimdeɛ-tokuro no a wɔbɛto mu ho. Saa nkabom no da adi sɛ ahoɔden efisɛ ɛyɛ ade baako. Ɛgye akokoduru kɛse sɛ wobɛka "minni awerɛhyɛmu" wɔ nnipa anim sene sɛ wode atorosɛm betwa wɔn ho akɔ.
Mfasoɔ a ɛyɛ komm nso wɔ hɔ, na ɛyɛ wo dea. Adwumayɛ a wosi so dua sɛ wonim biribiara no yɛ ɔbrɛ, efisɛ saa nkontompo no bɛtumi abubu bere biara. Adwumayɛ a wosi so dua nokwadie ne nyansa no kɔ so kyɛ. Wonya kwan sɛ wugyae sɛ wode awerɛhyɛmu a wonni di agorɔ na wofi aseɛ yɛ adwuma a ɛyɛ anika kɛse a ɛyɛ hwehwɛ.
Yeinom bi yɛ mmerɛ bere a woyɛ no pii. Bere a ɛdi kan a wobɛka "minnim" brɛoo wɔ dan a nneɛma akɛseɛ wɔ mu no, ɛbɛboɔ wo biribi. Ne mpɛn du so no, wobɛhunu sɛ dan no ammubu. Nnipa beuru bɛn. Adwuma no yɛɛ yiye. Na ade a na wusuro paa, sɛ wɔbɛhunu wo sɛ obi a na onni mmuaeɛ nyinaa, bɛyɛ ade a nnipa dodoɔ no ara bu komm mu.
Bere a nimdeɛ-tokuro no sen nhyiamu
Nsonsonoeɛ wɔ sɛ wonni nokwasɛm bi ne sɛ wote nka sɛ woreyera wɔ nsuo mu ntam. Sɛ piapia a wode bɛnya mmuaeɛ nyinaa redi wʼakyi akɔ fie, ɛrema wʼani nna anadwo, anaa ama woaboaboa wo ho pintinn a wuntumi nnwennwen yiye a, ɛno fata sɛ wode aniberesoɔ fa no wɔ ne nko ara so. Saa ara na ɛte wɔ atenka biara a ɛreba a ɛse woyɛ ɔtorofoɔ a wɔrebɛda wʼadi ho, a ɛyɛ deɛ ɛba taa, na ɛyɛ ya, na atrɛw sene sɛnea nnipa gye to mu badwa mu.
Yeinom biara nkyerɛ sɛ biribi anyɛ wo yiye. Ɛkyerɛ sɛ wokura adesoa a ɛsen sɛnea ɛsɛ sɛ onipa baako de ne nko ara kura. Ayaresafoɔ, akwankyerɛfoɔ a wode wo ho to no so, anaa coach mpo bɛtumi aboa wo ma woagyae gyidie a ɛse sɛ wo boɔ gyina sɛ wɔnnhunu wo da sɛ wonnim biribi no. Saa gyidie no yɛ duru, ɛnyɛ nokware, na ɛho nhia sɛ wode wo nko ara kɔ so soa.
Bere a ɛdi hɔ a dan no mu yɛ komm na mmuaeɛ no nni hɔ no, wowɔ baabi a wobɛtumi agyina. Wobɛtumi ahome, aka nokware, na wakyerɛ sɛ wobɛhwehwɛ. Ɛno nyɛ akannidie mu nkogu. Wɔ nna a ɛyɛ den no so, ɛno ne deɛ akannidie kyere fã kɛse.
Nkyerɛaseɛ
- Harvard Business Review, 6 Strategies for Leading Through Uncertainty (Rebecca Zucker and Darin Rowell)
- UNSW BusinessThink, Amy Edmondson on psychological safety in an uncertain world
- Greater Good Magazine, UC Berkeley, Five Reasons Why Intellectual Humility Is Good for You
- Current Issues in Personality Psychology (PMC), Intellectual humility: an old problem in a new psychological perspective