Afotusɛm ntiantia
- Tell one safe person you've been lonely.
- Drop the polished version, share one real thing.
- Build a standing walk around a shared task.
Ɛtaa ba bere a ɛnyɛ bere. Ɛnyɛ bere a wo nko ara wɔ fie Bena, na mmom wɔ apontoɔ mfimfini, anaa wɔ abusua aduane a obiara reserew mu, anaa wɔ nhyiamu a nnipa a woahu wɔn mfe pii ahyɛ mu ma. Dan no mu yɛ hyew na ɛyɛ den na ɛma. Na baabi wɔ wʼankasa wʼanim serew a ɛyɛ obuumana ase, adwene tiawa a ɛyɛ fɔkɔɔ: saa nnipa yi mu biara nnim me ankasa.
Sɛ woate saa nka pɛn a, wonsɛeɛ na wonyɛ obi a ɔnkyerɛ aseda nso. Woahyia adwumayɛ a ɛyɛ nwonwa wɔ onipayɛ ho no mu baako kɛkɛ. Sɛ wobɛn nnipa ne sɛ wote nka sɛ wo ne wɔn wɔ abusuabɔ no yɛ nneɛma mmienu soronko, na ɛnkɔ mmɔ mu bere nyinaa.
Adɛn nti na dan a ɛyɛ ma da so betumi ate sɛ ɛyɛ hunu
Nsɛmfua mmienu wɔ hɔ a ɛte sɛ ade koro nanso ɛnyɛ saa. Asetena mu ankonamtena fa akontaa ho, nnipa dodow a wɔwɔ wo nkwa mu, mpɛn dodow a wuhu wɔn. Ankonam fa atenka no ho, sɛ abusuabɔ a wowɔ no du wo mu ampa ana. Wubetumi anya nnipa kakraa bi na woate nka sɛ wɔkura wo yiye. Wubetumi anya wʼadekɔnimu a ɛyɔ ma na woate nka sɛ worehwɛ wʼankasa wo nkwa fa ahwehwɛ mu.
Nnuruyɛfoɔ twa saa nsensanee yi botae so. Sɛnea Cleveland Clinic ka no, ankonam fa sɛnea wuhu wo abusuabɔ tebea ho, na ɛno nti na obi betumi ate ankonam nka bere a nnipa atwa ne ho ahyia mpo. Nnipa dodow a wɔwɔ dan no mu no nyɛ nsusuwii da. Nsusuwii no ne sɛ wote nka sɛ wɔn mu biara hu wo anaa.
Ɛno nso nti na ɛtumi bɔ den paa wɔ nnipa mu. Sɛ wo nko ara ankasa a, atenka no wɔ ntease na wubetumi akyerɛ wɔ ho ase. Sɛ woyɛ ankonam wɔ nnipakuw mu a, yaw a ɛtɔ so mmienu wɔ nea ɛtɔ so kan no so: ɛyɛ sɛ obiara ho yɛ no fɛ, abusuabɔ no ho yɛ wɔ baabi a wɔbenya, nanso wode wo ho da so ntumi nte nka. Enti wofi ase susuw nea ɛsɛ wo ho.
Biribiara nsɔɔ wo ho. Nea ɛtaa nni hɔ no nyɛ nnipa. Ɛyɛ nkɔɔmɔ bi a ɛyɛ soronko.
Nsɔnsɔnoeɛ a ɛda sɛ wɔbɛn obi ne sɛ wɔbɛhyia wo no ntam
Dwene nkɔmmɔ a ɛma wote nka sɛ wonyɛ ankonam bio no ho. Ɛtaa wɔ ade baako a ɛyɛ pɛ: baabi wɔ mu no, na woyɛ wo ho ankasa, na onipa foforo no tena hɔ. Wokaa asɛm a ɛyɛ nokware kakra na ɛnyɛ asɛm a ɛyɔ den, na wɔammɔ hu anaa wɔansesa asɛm no. Wɔtee aseɛ. Wote nka, simma baako mu, sɛ onipa a woyɛ wɔ fie wɔ ɔdaɔbɔ awia bere kommyɔ mu no, wɔagye no atom wɔ dan no mu.
Daa nkitahodi pii nyɛ saa, na ɛnyɛ ho hia sɛ ɛyɛ saa. Nkɔmmɔ a wo ne kɔɔfie aforodɔɔfoɔ bɔ, adwuma anɔpa nhyiamu, kuw mu asɔmdwoebɔɔ a ɛfa nnaweekɔɔ nhyehyɛeɛ ho, eyinom ne nkwa no ahɔɔden, na ɛho hia. Nanso ɛnam soro so. Sɛ wo nkitahodi nyinaa nam soro so, sɛ obiara nni hɔ a woma no hu nea ɛwɔ ase no, soro no fi ase yɔ te sɛ ntoma a woaka mu.
Ankonam wɔ nnipakuw mu no taa yɛ saa ɔkwan no ankasa. Nkitahodi pii. Emu kakraa bi pɛ na ɛdu wo mu.
Ɛboa sɛ wubehu sɛ eyi yɛ adeɛ a ɛtaa ba, na ɛnyɛ ade a ɛyɛ na. U.S. Surgeon General yii kɔkɔbɔ a ɛfa ɔman nyinaa ho wɔ 2023 a ɔfrɛ ankonam ne asetena mu twe wɔ ho sɛ ɔmanfoɔ akwahosan haw, na akontaabuo a ɛhyɛ no ase no yɛ nwɔnwa: bɛyɛ U.S. mmadwemma fa ka sɛ wɔate ankonam nka. Fa. Dan a nnipa ahyɛ mu ma a woate nka sɛ wɔntumi nnu wo mu no, nnipa foforo a wɔate nka pɛpɛɛpɛ sɛnea wote no ahyɛ mu ma komm, na wɔsusuw sɛ wɔn nko ara ne saa.
Adɛn nti na ɛsɛ sɛ wofa no asɛnkɔkɔɔ
Ɛbɛyɛ mmrɛw sɛ wode bɛhyɛ "atenka kɛkɛ" ase na woapia mu. Ɛboro atenka kɛkɛ so. Nipadua no kora ho akontaa.
Bere a ankonam dan adɔ a, wo nhyɛso nhyehyɛeɛ no kɔ so yɔ adwuma. Cleveland Clinic kyerɛ sɛ ankonam a ɛkɔ so no ma wo cortisol, nhyɛso hormone, no kɔ soro, na bere kɔ so a, ɛhaw wo koma, wo nipadua banbɔ nhyehyɛeɛ, ne wo nna. Ɔmanfoɔ akwahosan nhwehwɛmu no kɔ akyiri: ankonam ne asetena mu twe a ɛkɔ so no ne koma yare ne stroke asianeɛ a ɛkɔ soro, ne owu a ɛba ntɛm asianeɛ a nhwehwɛfoɔ bi de atoto sigaret nom ho no wɔ abusuabɔ.
Eyinom mu biara nni hɔ sɛ ɛbɛhunahuna wo. Ɛwɔ hɔ sɛ ɛbɛma wo kwan. Sɛ woafa atenka yi sɛ ahonyade haw, biribi a ɛsɛ sɛ wʼani wu ho a, ɛnte saa. Ɛyɔ nsɛnkyerɛnne ankasa a efi nipadua a wɔabɔ no sɛ ɛho hia nnipa foforo. Ɛkɔm ka kyerɛ wo sɛ didi. Ankonam pɛ sɛ ɛka biribi a ɛho hia saa ara kyerɛ wo.
Nea ɛtaa boa
Ɛsɔɔ a ɛhɔ wo bere a wote saa nka wɔ nnipakuw mu no, ne sɛ wode nnipakuw bebree bɛka ho. Apontoɔ pii, nhyehyɛeɛ pii, nnipa pii. Ɛtɔ da bi a ɛboa kakra. Mpɛn pii no ɛnka ade ankasa no, efisɛ ade ankasa no nyɛ dodɔ. Ha na tumi no wɔ ankasa.
Kɔ mu nsateaa baako wɔ onipa baako mu, na ɛnyɛ akwansin baako wɔ obiara mu
Wonhia asetena mu nnamfobɔɔ a ɛsoo. Wuhia nkɔmmɔbɔ baako a ɛtwam wim tebea. Paw onipa baako a wote nka sɛ ɔwɔ ahobammɔ kakra mpo na ka asɛm baako a ɛyɛ nokware, "nokware ni, makyɛ ankonam nnansa yi," anaa "saa afe yi ayɛ den kyɛn sɛnea mekyerɛeɛ no." Ɛno ne ne nyinaa. Wonni nhwehwɛ sɛ wobɛyɛ ɔdɔmfo papa. Worehwɛ sɛ nokwaredi betumi atena nkwa mu wɔ saa onipa yi ho ana. Ɛtaa yɔ saa, na ɛtaa yɔ sɛ wɔhome na wɔka kyerɛ wo sɛ wɔn nso ate nka pɛn.
Sesa adeyɔ ma wɔnhu wo kakra
Ankonam wɔ nnipakuw mu pii fi sɛ wopue sɛ onipa a wɔabɔ no fɛɛfɛɔ, nea onni ahiadeɔ na ɔwɔ mmuae pa ma biribiara. Saa onipa no wɔ ahobammɔ na ɔsan yɔ ankonam nso, efisɛ obiara ntumi mfa ne ho mmɔ adeyɔ ho. Wonhia sɛ wobɛyi wo mu nneɛma nyinaa adi Bena. Ma asɛm baako a ɛyɔ nokware ntwa mu. Nnipa de wɔn ho bɔ onipa no, na ɛnyɛ nneɛma pa no nko ara.
Di shared adeyɔ akyi, na ɛnyɛ shared kasa nko ara
Abusuabɔ taa nyin wɔ nkyɛn, denam adwuma a wɔkyɛ mu so, na ɛnyɛ tee. Hele wɔ daa a wo ne ɔfipamfo bɔ, akyɛde adwuma, sukuu adesua, kuw. Mayo Clinic akwankyerɛ a ɛfa ankonam tee ho no fa saa kwan yi ho wɔ ntease bi: nkitahodi a ɛyɔ daa, a ɛnhyɛ den a wɔasi no adeyɔ bi ho ma abusuabɔ baabi a ɛbɛnyin a kanea "momma yɛnkɔ na yɛnnyi yɛn ho adi" no nni mu.
Hwɛ kontonkonkon a wʼadwene di
Ankonam wɔ adwene mu nhyehyɛeɛ, na ɛyɔ kokoam. Ɛka kyerɛ wo sɛ woyɛ adesoa, sɛ obiara mpɛ sɛ ɔte, sɛ woyɔ mmɔden sɔ kyɛ wo ho ase. Enti wotwe wo ho, nea ɛma woyɔ ankonam kɛse, nea ɛma adwene no yɔ den kɛse. Sɛ wukyere wo ho wɔ hɔ a, fa saa adwene no sɛ yareɛ nsɛnkyerɛnne, na ɛnyɛ nokwasɛm. Nne a ɛka sɛ "nha wɔn" no ne ankonam na ɛrekasa, na ɛnyɛ ɔsɛmkafo a wode wo ho to no so.
Hwɛ abusuabɔ a wowɔ dada no so
Nnipa a wɔbetumi adu wo mu no wɔ wo nkwa mu dada, na mmom wɔ soro te sɛ obiara. Ɛnyɛ daa na ɛsɛ sɛ wuhwehwɛ nnipa foforo. Ɛtɔ da bi a wofa abusuabɔ a ɛwɔ hɔ dada na woma emu du fɔ, akyiwadɔfo a wuhu no afahyɛ bere nkutoo no, adwumayɔ ɔdɔfo a wo ne no ka adwumasɛm nko ara no, ɔdɔfo dadaw a wokɔ so kae sɛ wobɛfrɛ no no. Nhwehwɔmu nokware baako betumi ayɔ kɛse asen ɔsram baako mu nnipa foforo a wɔde wo ahyia.
Bere a wɔbɛhwehwɔ biribi a ɛboro ɔdɔfo so
Ankonam bi pɔn sɛ woma kwan kakra ma wo ankasa na woma onipa baako anaa mmienu bɔ wo ho. Bi nyɔ saa, na ɛno ho hia sɛ wofa no asɔnkɔkɔɔ na ɛnyɔ sɛ wopia mu.
Sɛ ntetewmu no atena wo ho abosome, sɛ ɛba a ɛne adesoa a ɛma ɛyɔ den sɛ wonya anigyeɔ wɔ nneɔma a kane no na wɔn anya wɔ mu, sɛ woda anaa wodidi soronko paa, sɛ woafi ase ate nka sɛ wonni mfaso anaa sɛ ɛkɔ yiye ma nnipa sɛ wonni hɔ a, yɔ srɛ wo fa no sɛ ntease a enti ɛsɛ sɛ wo ne ɔbenimdefoɔ kasa, na ɛnyɔ suban mu mfomso a ɛsɛ sɛ wode sie. Ɔyaresafo anaa ɔdwenefoɔ betumi ahu nsɔnsɔnoeɔ a ɛda ankonam a ɔtaa ba ne adwenemhuammɔ a ɛhia ɔhwɔ ntam, na wɔbetumi aboa wɔ ɔmienu no nyinaa mu. Sɛ wonya saa mmoa no a ɛnkyerɛ sɛ woagyae abusuabɔ. Ɛyɔ abusuabɔ kwan a ɛyɔ nokware sen biara mu baako.
Dan a wowɔ mu anadwo yi betumi ahyɔ nnipa a wɔate nka pɛpɛɛpɛ sɔnea wote no ma, na wɔagye atom sɔ wɔn nko ara ne saa. Ɛno ne mmɔborɔhunu nwɔnwa a ahintaw wɔ sɔnea eyi taa ba mu no. Ɔfasu a wukɔ so bɔ mu no, nnipa pii gyina akyi. Ɛtutu kwan koro no ara ma obiara, asɔm nokware baako bere baako.
Nsɛm a wonyaa wɔ
- Cleveland Clinic, How Loneliness Can Impact Your Health
- U.S. Department of Health and Human Services, Our Epidemic of Loneliness and Isolation: The U.S. Surgeon General's Advisory on the Healing Effects of Social Connection and Community
- CDC / NIOSH Science Bulletin, Social Connection and Worker Well-being
- Mayo Clinic News Network, Mayo Clinic Q and A: Does loneliness affect your health?