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Afotusɛm ntiantia
- Ask to slow down, then watch closely.
- Notice how they handle your small no.
- Keep your friends close, not at arm's length.
Adwene basaa su pɔtee bi wɔ hɔ a ɛba nnawɔtwe kakra wɔ biribi foforɔ mu. Wopɛ saa onipa yi. Ɔde n'ani si wo so, ɔka nsɛm a ɛyɛ fɛ, nkrasɛm no kɔ so daa nyinaa. Nanso wo fa bi a ɛyɛ ketewa na ɛyɛ komm te nka sɛ ne ho ntɔ no na wuntumi nka deɛ enti pɛpɛɛpɛ. Wokasa fi mu. Woresuro kwa, wo na woka kyerɛ wo ho. Wotaa yɛ saa.
Ɛtɔ da bi a saa nne no yɛ ehu dada ankasa na ɛrekasa. Ɛtɔ da bi a ɛrekyere biribi ankasa ansa na w'adwene a wonim no aba akyi. Nyansa no nyɛ sɛ wode wo ho bɛto so anifirie so anaa woabu w'ani agu so. Ɛyɛ sɛ wobɛhunu deɛ wobɛhwɛ.
Kɔkɔbɔ nsɛnkyerɛnneɛ nyɛ aniwuo berɛ baako anaa anadwo bɔne baako. Obiara wɔ saa. Kɔkɔbɔ nsɛnkyerɛnneɛ yɛ nneyɛeɛ, titiriw deɛ ɛsan ba, kɔ soro, anaa ɛyɛ bɔne prɛko a wobɔ ho din. Kora saa nsonsonoɛ no wɔ w'adwene mu, ɛfiri sɛ ɛno na ɛpae onipa a ne ho popo wɔ nhyiamu a ɛto so mmiɛnsa mu firi onipa a ɛsɛ sɛ wodwene ho mprenu ho.
Adɛn enti na mpɛnatweyɛ mfitiaseɛ ma eyinom yɛ den sɛ wobɛhunu
Biribi mfitiaseɛ yɛ honam mu tebea a ɛyɛ nwanwa. Worenya ɔdɔ ne deɛ ebetumi aba, worehyɛ ntokuro no ma de atosɛm a ɛyɛ pa koraa, na wopɛ ankasa sɛ ɛnyɛ adwuma. Eyinom nyinaa ma wo fa a ɛhunu ɔhaw no yɛ komm. Ɛnyɛ suban mu sintɔ. Ɛyɛ sɛnea ɔdɔ foforɔ yɛ adwuma wɔ amena so.
Nnipa a wɔde ɔhaw kɛse ba no taa te eyi ase, sɛ wobɛtumi akyerɛkyerɛ mu anaasɛ wɔrentumi. Wɔkɔ ntɛm hyɛ da. Mmirikatu no te sɛ ɔpɛ. Ɛyɛ adwuma te sɛ kusukuukuu.
Enti botaeɛ wɔ ha no nyɛ adwene a wonnye nni. Sɛ wokɔ mpɛnatwe biara mu a woasiesie wo ho ama ɔfatwa a, ɛyɛ ɔhaw soronko, na ɛpia wɔn a wɔyɛ pa no kɔ. Botaeɛ no ne sɛ wobɛda hɔ buebue. Sɛ w'ankasa w'atemmuo bɛkɔ so ayɛ adwuma berɛ a woma obi kwan ba wo mu.
Nsɛnkyerɛnneɛ a ɛkyerɛ ɔhaw ankasa
Ɛnyɛ su soronko biara na ɛyɛ kɔkɔbɔ. Sini ho akɔnnɔ a ɛnyɛ pa nyɛ kɔkɔbɔ nsɛnkyerɛnneɛ. Sɛɛ ne wɔn a emu yɛ duru ankasa.
Ɛrekɔ ntɛm kɛse sen sɛnea ɛyɛ wo dɛ
Hokafoɔ foforɔ hwie n'ani-si-wo-so gu wo so, ɔfrɛ wo ne kra-yɔnko wɔ nnawɔtwe mmienu mu, ɔka daakye ho asɛm ansa na ɔnim wo din mfimfini, ebia ɔde akyɛdeɛ a ɛte sɛ ɛdɔɔso saa berɛ tiawa yi mu ba. Ɔyaresafoɔ wɔ deɛ ɛboro so no din: ɔdɔ-bombing. Cleveland Clinic kyerɛ no pefee sɛ ɛyɛ ɔkwan a wode ɔdɔ ka wo so kɛse sɛ wobɛnya tumi wɔ wo so, na ɔka sɛ ɔyamyɛ no taa dane kasatia ne tumihyɛ ɛberɛ a woabata mu.
Nsɛnkyerɛnneɛ no nyɛ ɔdɔ no ankasa. Ɛyɛ mmirikatu no, ne deɛ ɛba ɛberɛ a wobisa sɛ wonkyekye no. Onipa pa te "eyi dɔɔso, yɛbɛtumi abrɛ ase anaa" na ɔbrɛ ase. Ɔdɔ-bomber no koma yera, anaa ne bo fu, anaa ɔhyɛ mu den. Adɔeɛbɔ ankasa tumi tena nantewɔ a ɛyɛ brɛoo mu. Nhyɛsoɔ ntumi.
Wɔnnye "daabi" ntom
Hwɛ "daabi" nketewa no. Woabrɛ na wopɛ sɛ anadwo no ba awieeɛ, wompɛ sɛ wokyerɛ saa asɛm no seesei, wuntumi nyɛ Yawoada. Hwɛ deɛ wɔde yɛ. Wɔgye tom ngu ho anaa, anaa wɔpia, di awerɛhoɔ, di nkitaho, anaa wɔma wo te nka sɛ woadi fɔ sɛ wowɔ anohyeto?
Sɛnea obi de wo anohyeto nketewa di dwuma mfitiaseɛ no na ɛyɛ ɛkwan a ɛda adi pefee a wobɛnya a ɛkyerɛ sɛnea wɔbɛyɛ akɛseɛ no akyiri yi. Eyi boɔ sen biribiara a wɔka fa wɔn ho.
Akwan a ɛda hɔ komm a ɛtwe wo firi wo nkurɔfoɔ ho
Ɛtaa nte sɛ tumihyɛ mfitiaseɛ. Ɛte sɛ wɔpɛ wo nyinaa ma wɔn ho, a ɛtumi yɛ wo dɛ. Afei ɛyɛ asɛm fa wo adamfo pa ho. Ntease bi a enti wo nuabaa yɛ obi a ɔbɛsɛe wo. Awerɛhoɔ ketewa bi berɛ biara a woyɛ nhyehyɛeɛ a wɔnka ho. love is respect, ɔman mu abusuabɔ a apɔmuden wɔ mu ho mmoa, kyerɛ sɛ wɔtwe obi firi nnamfo ne abusua ho yɛ kɔkɔbɔ nsɛnkyerɛnneɛ titire wɔ mpɛnatweyɛ atɔyerɛ ho, ɛfiri sɛ sɛ wɔtwa wo firi nnipa a wɔnim wo ho na ɛma tumihyɛ nya gyinabea.
Sɛ wohunu sɛ wo wiase reyɛ ketewa komm atwa onipa baako ho a, ɛno fata sɛ wode w'ani si so yie.
Atosɛm no kɔ so sesa, na ɛyɛ wo daa nyinaa
Wode biribi a ɛhaw wo ba na wokɔ a woresrɛ bɔne ho fɔkyɛ. Wokae nkɔmmɔbɔ bi ɔkwan baako na wɔsi so dua, komm na koraa, sɛ ɛkɔɔ ɔkwan foforɔ so. Adapɛn pii akyi na wofi aseɛ te nka sɛ kusukuukuu, sɛ wuntumi nnye wo ankasa wo fa nneɛma ho nni. Saa wo ahotosoɔ a ɛresɛe no ne nsɛnkyerɛnneɛ no. Hokafoɔ a ɔyɛ nokwafoɔ daa no gyaa wo a wo ho gyina ano berɛ a ɛrekɔ so, ɛnyɛ adwene basaa kɛse fa deɛ ɛyɛ nokorɛ ho.
Wɔn kan-adɔfoɔ nyinaa abɔ dam na biribiara nyɛ wɔn dea da
Tie sɛnea obi ka ne tete abakɔsɛm. Sɛ na ne kan-hokafoɔ biara abɔ dam, ne tete adamfo biara di no hwammɔ, adwuma biara baa awieeɛ ɛsiane obi foforɔ huammɔ enti a, woreте nneyɛeɛ bi. Ɛtɔ da bi a nnipa nya akwanhyia bɔne ampa. Nanso onipa a pɛnkoro mpo onnka "aane, mediho dwuma bɔne" no rekyerɛ wo sɛ ɔnnye akontaabuo. Wo nso wobɛyɛ kan-adɔfoɔ a wɔabɔ dam no mu baako wɔ saa atosɛm no mu da bi.
Hye ne nwunu wɔ kɔntono mu
Bata a emu yɛ den, na afei nwunu prɛko. Nsɛm a ɔdɔ wɔ mu, na afei nnɔnhwere pii kommyɛ a ɛma wo ho yera wo na wohwɛ wo telefon. Soro no te sɛ ɛyɛ nwanwa fa baako ɛfiri sɛ fam no yɛ yea. Sɛ adapɛn kakra akyi na woreyɛ wo komatu nhyehyɛeɛ atwa wɔn berɛ a wɔwɔ hɔ ho, woforo soro ɛberɛ a wɔyɛ hye na wode ahodwiriw to fam ɛberɛ a wɔtwe wɔn ho a, abusuabɔ no rekyerɛkyerɛ wo sɛ ho nyera wo. Ɛno nyɛ nsɛmnsɛm. Ɛyɛ ntini-firi a wɔretete no.
Deɛ ɛyɛ kɔkɔbɔ nsɛnkyerɛnneɛ ankasa ne w'ankasa wo tete ehu
Sɛɛ ne nokorɛ nsɛsoɔ no. Sɛ wɔapira wo pɛn a, wo kɔkɔbɔ no tumi to baabi a ɛnteɛ. Ɛtumi ye dede denneennen fa obi a ɔho dwo koraa ho ɛfiri sɛ ɔbɛneɛ wo nko ara enti. Enti ɛkwan bɛn so na wobɛhunu nsonsonoɛ no?
Nsɛmmisa kakra a ɛboa:
- Ɛyɛ nneyɛeɛ anaa berɛ baako? Asɛm a ɛnteɛ baako yɛ onipa. Adeɛ a ɛyɛ yea koro no ara mprɛnan yɛ data.
- Ɛdeɛn na ɛba ɛberɛ a wobɔ ho din? Eyi ne deɛ ɛyɛ kɛse. Onipa a ɔho dwo, sɛ wɔka kyerɛ no sɛ biribi haw wo a, ne ho pere no na ɔbɔ mmɔden sɛ ɔbɛte aseɛ. Deɛ ne ho yɛ hu no, ɔyina ne ho akwan, ɔdane no ba wo so, anaa ɔtwe wo aso sɛ wode baeɛ. Nneyɛeɛ no ka kyerɛ wo pii sen adeyɛ a edi kan no.
- Nkateɛ no sua anaa ɛnyini berɛ a ɛrekɔ so? Mpɛnatwe da-a-edi-kan ehu taa fi a wonim onipa ankasa. Kɔkɔbɔ nsɛnkyerɛnneɛ ankasa taa ye dede kɛse berɛ a wohwɛ no kyɛ, ɛfiri sɛ nneyɛeɛ no kɔ so san ba.
- Abusuabɔ no rema woayɛ wo ho kɛse anaa kakra? love is respect kyerɛ abusuabɔ sɛ kabea firi apɔmuden kɔ ɔsɛeɛ, na nsɛnkyerɛnneɛ a ɛda hɔ pefee koraa wɔ apɔmuden fa no ne fawohodie, kwan a wode bɛkora wo nnamfo, w'akɔnnɔ, ne w'ankasa w'adwene so. Sɛ woreyɛ ketewa, komm, na wonnye wo ho nni a, ɛyɛ nsɛm.
Ɛberɛ a wohunu baako a
Sɛ wohunu nsɛnkyerɛnneɛ a ɛnkyerɛ sɛ ɛsɛ sɛ wotu mmirika. Ɛkyerɛ sɛ brɛ ase na fa w'ani si so. Adeyɛ pintinn kakra:
- Gyae sɛ wode atosɛm a ɛyɛ pa koraa rehyɛ ntokuro no mu. Hwɛ deɛ onipa no yɛ ankasa wɔ nnawɔtwe kakra a ɛdi hɔ mu, ɛnyɛ deɛ wo wɔ anidasoɔ sɛ ɔbɛyɛ.
- Bɔ adeɛ ketewa baako din na hwɛ mmuaeɛ no. "Hwɛ, saa fɛwdie no kɔ baabi a ano yɛ nnam kakra ma me." Ne mmuaeɛ no na ɛyɛ nsɔhwɛ ankasa.
- Kora wo nkurɔfoɔ bɛn wo. Mma wo ho nyera wɔ obi foforɔ mu. Nnamfo a wɔtumi hunu wo pefee no yɛ ademudeɛ, ɛnyɛ asiane ma abusuabɔ no.
- Gye nneyɛeɛ no di, ɛnyɛ bɔne-ho-fɔkyɛsrɛ no. Fɔkyɛsrɛ a ɛte sɛ ɛfi akoma mu a nneyɛeɛ koro no ara di akyi no yɛ nneyɛeɛ no ara, a ɛsan ba.
Na bɔ wo nnyinasodeɛ ho ban berɛ a woresusu ho. Kora w'ankasa wo sika, w'ankasa wo akwantuo kwan, w'ankasa wo tumi sɛ wobɛfiri. Ɛno nyɛ aniberesɛm. Ɛyɛ obu a ɛyɛ komm a ahokafoɔ pa ani gye sɛ wowɔ.
Ɛberɛ a ɛsɛ sɛ wode wo nsa kɔ mmoa pii ho a
Eyi fa bi yɛ kɛse sen sɛnea adamfo afotuo bɛtumi akura. Sɛ obi rehwɛ wo telefon anaa baabi a wowɔ, ɔde nsɛnnahɔ hyɛ wo so, ɔhunahuna wo, ɔdi wo sika so, anaa ɔma woasuro a, ɛno atwam kɔkɔbɔ nsɛnkyerɛnneɛ kabea mu akɔ wo banbɔ mu, na sɛ wofiri tumihyɛ abusuabɔ mu no tumi yɛ berɛ a asiane wɔ mu sen biara, enti ɛfata sɛ wode mmoa yɛ sen sɛ wo nko ara. Akwankyerɛfoɔ a wɔatete wɔn yɛ eyi da biara, kokoam a wɔmmu atɛn, na ɔfotufoɔ tumi boa wo ma wopae kɔkɔbɔ ankasa firi tete apirakuro ho ɛberɛ a wuntumi nhunu deɛ ɛyɛ deɛ. Sɛ wode wo nsa kɔ mmoa ho a, ɛnkyerɛ sɛ woadi nkogu wɔ mpɛnatweyɛ mu anaa sɛ woyɛ deɛ ɛboro so. Ɛkyerɛ sɛ wode w'ankasa wo banbɔ aniberɛ sɛnea anka wode adamfo deɛ aniberɛ.
Wowɔ ho kwan sɛ wofiri biribi a adi nnawɔtwe kakra pɛ mu. Wonhia asɛnniiɛ adansedeɛ a ɛyɛ ma. "Eyi nte sɛ ɛyɛ pɛpɛɛpɛ" daa abɛyɛ ntease a edi mu.
Nsɛm a ɛfiri mu
- Cleveland Clinic, What Is Love Bombing? 7 Signs To Look For
- love is respect, Warning Signs of Dating Abuse: What To Look For
- love is respect, Relationship Spectrum