Sɛ woahyɛ ahohia mu anaa woredwene sɛ wobɛpira wo ho a, ɛnyɛ wo nko ara. Wɔ US no, frɛ anaa mena 988 (Suicide & Crisis Lifeline, 24/7), mena HOME kɔ 741741 (Crisis Text Line), anaa frɛ 911 wɔ amanehunu bere mu.
Afotusɛm ntiantia
- Keep a dated, private log of what happened.
- Try "I'm comfortable with my memory".
- Reconnect with someone who knew you before.
Wofiri nkɔmmɔdie bi mu na wuntumi nhu deɛ ɛwɔ soro. Na wo werɛ na ɛda biribi ho dɔnhwerew baako a atwam. Seesei wonni biribiara ho awerɛhyɛmu, a deɛ wo ne haw no nso ka ho. Wuhu wo ho sɛ woresua deɛ wobɛka bere a edi hɔ, woreboaboa adanseɛ ano, woreyɛ wo ho asɛm sɛ ampa ara woyɛ obi a wo ho yɛ mmrɛw dodo, wo nneyɛeɛ yɛ ahosenkasa dodo, ɛdɔɔso dodo.
Sɛ ɛyɛ pɛnkoro a, ɛyɛ nkɔmmɔ bɔne kɛkɛ. Sɛ ɛyɛ abusuabɔ bi wim tebea a, ɛwɔ din.
Gaslighting yɛ nhwɛsoɔ a onipa baako, bere kɔ so mu, ma onipa foforɔ nya nʼankasa ne nkae, nʼadwene, ne nʼatemmuo ho akyinnyeɛ. Cleveland Clinic kyerɛ no sɛ atenka mu nnaadaa soronko bi a ɛsɛe wo tumi a wode gye wo ho ne nnipa afoforɔ di. Asɛm no firi anansesɛm dada bi mu. Agorɔ bi wɔ hɔ a wɔyɛɛ no 1938, ne sini bi a wɔfrɛ no *Gaslight* a wɔyɛɛ no 1944, a emu okunu bi de kokoam dum gas akanea a ɛwɔ fie no na afei ɔsi so dua, mpɛn pii, sɛ ne yere no resusu nsesaeɛ no. Ɔnsusu. Okunu no gyina so sɛ ne yere begye ɔno adi sen nʼankasa nʼani.
Ӗno ne afidie no nyinaa wɔ mfoni baako mu. Ma obi nnye deɛ ɔhunuiɛ pefee no nni, na wonya tumi si deɛ ɛyɛ nokware ho gyinaeɛ.
Adɛn enti na ɛyɛ den paa sɛ wobɛhunu firi mu
Gaslighting ntaa mma sɛ atorɔsɛm kɛseɛ baako a anka wobɛtumi akyere na woaka. Ɛba brɛoo. Psychology Today kyerɛ sɛ ɛtaa firi ase ketewa, kasakyinnyaa nketewa, na nsɛm a ɛnyɛ nokware no dɔɔso firi hɔ kɔsi sɛ wode wo ho bɛto onipa foforɔ no nsɛm a ɛsisii no so sɛnea ɛbɛyɛ a wo bo bɛtɔ wo yam. Bere a ɛreyɛ ɔsɛeɛ ankasa no, na woagyae adwinnadeɛ baako a anka ɛbɛka akyerɛ wo sɛ biribi nteɛ no gyedie: wʼankasa wo nokwasɛm ho nkenkan.
Farebae a ɛyɛ dɛ nso wɔ hɔ a enti ɛyɛ adwuma. Yɛtaa de gyedie kɛseɛ ma nnipa a wɔbɛn yɛn paa, ɔhokafoɔ, ɔwofoɔ, sohwɛfoɔ, adamfo a yɛahu no mfeɛ pii. Bere a saa onipa no ka kyerɛ wo sɛ wokae no bɔne no, wo su a edi kan ne sɛ wubegye no adi, ɛfiri sɛ sɛ wugye no di a, ɛno ne sɛnea gyedie te. Gaslighting fa saa su pa no na ɛdane tia wo.
Ӗfata sɛ wɔka no pefee: sɛ wɔdaadaa wo wɔ eyi mu a, ɛnyɛ nsɛnkyerɛnneɛ sɛ wo yɛ mmerɛ anaa ɔkwasea. Ɛyɛ nsɛnkyerɛnneɛ sɛ wode obi too so. Mfomsoɔ no yɛ wɔn dea.
Nneyɛeɛ a wobɛhwɛ
Dɔktafoɔ ne aboafoɔ a wɔne eyi yɛ adwuma kyerɛ akwan kakra a ɛsane ba. Medical News Today ne National Domestic Violence Hotline mmienu de gu hɔ wɔ kasa a ɛsɛ. Ebia worenhu ne nyinaa, na wonhia. Nhwɛsoɔ a ɛgyina pintinn mu mmienu anaa mmiɛnsa mpo ne nsɛnkyerɛnneɛ no.
- Pawpaw a ɛyɛ tee. "Ɛno amma da." "Manka saa da." Wɔka no awerɛhyɛmu a ɛma wuhyɛ aseɛ hwehwɛ mfomsoɔ wɔ wʼankasa wo nkae mu.
- Tia. Wɔde komm san kyerɛw wʼadanseɛ a wode di asɛm bi ho adanseɛ, na wʼankasa wo nkae no, wɔfrɛ no deɛ wontumi nnye nni. "Wo deɛ daa wokae nneɛma bɔne."
- Bu ade ketewa. Wɔdane wo nkate yɛ haw ankasa no. Wo ho yɛ mmrɛw dodo, wuntumi nnye aseresɛm, woreyɛ no kɛseɛ dodo, woreyɛ asɛm firi deɛ enni hɔ mu.
- Sie ne dane. Sɛ wɔbɛpɛ sɛ wɔne wo bedi nkitaho, ka sɛ wɔnte aseɛ, anaa wɔdane nkɔmmɔ no kɔ wo mfomsoɔ so sɛnea ɛbɛyɛ a asɛm a ɛbaeɛ kane no bɛyera.
- Dane afɔbuo. Ɔkwan bi so no, ntawntawmu biara wie a wo na wode wʼahopa rebɔ. Wɔn nneyɛeɛ bɛyɛ wo mfomsoɔ sɛ wohwanyan no.
Hwɛ sɛ ɛnonom mu biara nfa ntawntaw baako pɛ ho. Nnipa kae nneɛma bɔne. Nnipa bɔ wɔn ho ban. Deɛ ɛma ɛyɛ gaslighting ne mpɛn dodoɔ ne baabi a ne nyinaa kyerɛ: firi wɔn asɛyiwuo ho kɔ wʼankasa wo ho akyinnyeɛ ho.
Deɛ ɛyɛ wo
Tena eyi mu bere tenten a, nkɛntɛnso no trɛw boro abusuabɔ no so kɔ wo nipadua ne wʼadwene mu. Woda gyinaeɛ a ɛyɛ mmrɛw ho akyinnyeɛ. Wode wʼahopa ma a wonnsusu ho, ɛtɔ da a wonim sɛ wote ase kɛkɛ. Wote nka sɛ kusukuukuu na wo ho ahooyaw bere korɔ. Wobɛtumi ahyɛ aseɛ akora deɛ wɔkaeɛ ankasa ho kokoam, ɛfiri sɛ wo fa bi nim sɛ akyiri yi wɔbɛka akyerɛ wo sɛ ɛkɔɔ ɔkwan foforɔ so.
Adwene akwahosan dɔktafoɔ de gaslighting a ɛkyɛ ka ahopopoɔ, awerɛhoɔ a emu yɛ duru, ne ahometeɛ bom, titiriw bere a ɛyɛ nhwɛsoɔ a ɛtrɛw a ɛfa nhyɛsoɔ ho fa. Ɛno nyɛ deɛ woreyɛ no kɛseɛ. Ɛyɛ deɛ ɛba bere a asaase a ɛwɔ wo nokwasɛm atenka ase no kɔ so kanyan.
Sɛdeɛ wobɛsan anya wo nan ase pintinn bio
Botaeɛ no wɔ ha nyɛ sɛ wobɛdi ntawntawmu a ɛfa hwan nkae na ɛteɛ ho nkonim. Ebia worennya saa da. Botaeɛ no ne sɛ wobɛsan anya wo ho. Nneɛma kakra boa ankasa.
Kyerɛw nneɛma. Kora nkrataa a emu da hɔ a ɛyɛ kokoam, a date wɔ so, a deɛ wɔkaeɛ ne deɛ ɛsiiɛ wɔ mu. Cleveland Clinic ne fie basabasayɛ ho aboafoɔ mmienu kamfo eyi kyerɛ. Ɛnnyɛ sɛ wobɛkyekye asɛm, na mmom sɛ wode sɛkyɛ bɛma wo ho bere a wɔsane bɛka akyerɛ wo sɛ wosusuiɛ no. Wʼankasa wo nkrataa tumi yɛ den sen obi foforɔ awerɛhyɛmu.
San kɔ nnipa a na wonim wo kane no nkyɛn. Gaslighting yɛ adwuma yiye wɔ ankonam mu, enti ɛtaa ba a nhyɛsoɔ a ɛyɛ kokoam a ɛtwe wo firi nnamfonom ne abusua ho ka ho. San fa wo ho bɔ nnipa baako anaa mmienu a wɔbɛtumi de wʼankasa woyɛ ahwɛ wo. Bisa wɔn, nokware mu, sɛ deɛ woreka no te sɛ biribi a ɛnteɛ anaa. Aforanan a ɛfiri akyirikyiri ne ɔkwan a wode sesa wo ho.
Gyae nokwasɛm ho akyinnyeɛ wɔ saa bere no mu. Ɛnhia sɛ wode asɛm biara di asɛm bio. "Ɛnyɛ saa na mekae no, na me bo atɔ me yam wɔ me nkae ho" yɛ mmuaeɛ a edi mu. Wobɛtumi apo nsa frɛ a wɔde frɛ wo sɛ kyerɛ wo ho. Sɛ wofi saa kɔneaba no mu a, ɛnyɛ nkogu. Ɛyɛ sɛ woapo sɛ wobɛkɔ so adi agorɔ a wɔahyehyɛ atia wo.
Yi wo ntini nhyehyɛeɛ firi kɔkɔbɔ tebea mu ansa na woasi biribiara ho gyinaeɛ. Bere a wʼani so ahyɛ wo ma no, wʼatemmuo yɛ komm, deɛ ɛno ne tebea a gaslighting de wo si mu pɛpɛɛpɛ. Home brɛoo kakra, nan si fam, nantew tiawa. Ɛnnyɛ sɛ wobɛsiesie abusuabɔ no, na mmom sɛ wobɛsan anya wo ho dodow a ɛbɛboa ma woadwene yiye.
Na yɛ adeyɛ ketewa a ɛkyerɛ sɛ wuusan gye wo ho di no ho dwumadie: gye biribi baako a wuhunuiɛ di a wommisa kwan sɛ wo bo bɛtɔ wo yam. Hotline kyerɛ ahohyɛsoɔ sɛnea ɛfata sɛ wobɛsua sɛnea woasan agye wo ho adi bio. Ɛfiri aseɛ ketewa saa ara.
Bere a ɛsɛ sɛ wode mmoa ba
Ei bi wobɛtumi ayɛ wo nko. Pii kɔ ntɛm, na ɛnyɛ ankonam kɛseɛ, sɛ wonya mmoa a. Aduruyɛni a ɔte atenka mu ayayadeɛ ase betumi aboa wo ma woahyehyɛ deɛ na ɛyɛ nokware, asan akyekye ahotosoɔ a wowɔ wʼankasa wo nokwasɛm nkenkan mu, na woahu deɛ wopɛ sɛ woyɛ akyiri yi, a ɔnnka deɛ ɛsɛ sɛ ɛyɛ nkyerɛ wo.
Sɛ abusuabɔ no nso fa ahunahuna, nhyɛsoɔ wɔ wo sika anaa wo nanteɛ so, anaa ehu a ɛfa wo bammɔ ho a, mesrɛ wo fa no sɛ biribi a ɛboro nkitahodie ho haw so. Gaslighting taa ne ayayadeɛ ahodoɔ afoforɔ nantew, na wofata sɛ wonya obi wʼafa a ɔde eyi yɛ adwuma de tena ase. Fie basabasayɛ ho ɔboafoɔ betumi ne wo akɔ mu kokoam, a sɛ ɛsɛ sɛ wofi mu ne sɛdeɛ wobɛyɛ ka ho; na tebea biara nni hɔ a ɛyɛ ketewa dodo anaa ennie ho awerɛhyɛmu dodo sɛ wode bɛkɔ wɔn hɔ. Sɛ wode wo nsa kɔ a, ɛnkyekyere wo wɔ biribiara ho. Ɛkyerɛ sɛ ɛnsɛ sɛ wo nko hu mu ase.
Wowɔ ho kwan sɛ wugye wo ho di. Nokwasɛm a sɛ woregye eyi mu akyinnyeɛ mpo sɛ ɛyɛ nokware anaa no, ɛyɛ wʼankasa wʼatemmuo, deɛ wɔayɛ adwuma sɛ wɔbɛmene no, a ɛrepɛ wʼadwene. Tie no.
Nsɛm a Yɛgyee firii hɔ
- Cleveland Clinic, Gaslighting: Definition & How To Spot It
- Medical News Today, What is gaslighting? Examples and how to respond
- Psychology Today, Gaslighting
- The National Domestic Violence Hotline, What Is Gaslighting?